ARFID Is Not Just Picky Eating—And You’re Not “Just the Picky Eater”

If you’ve ever been called a picky eater, dismissed for not trying new foods, or felt ashamed of your limited diet, you’re not alone. Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID) is a serious eating disorder that goes beyond typical fussy eating. It affects how people experience food, often making it physically or mentally challenging to eat a wide variety of foods.

What Is ARFID?

Unlike the common perception of "picky eating," ARFID is a diagnosable eating disorder that can significantly impact a person’s physical health, social experiences, and emotional wellbeing. People with ARFID may struggle with:

✅ Sensory sensitivities—Certain textures, smells, or tastes can be overwhelming or even unbearable.

✅ Fear-based avoidance—A history of choking, vomiting, or illness related to food may lead to extreme anxiety around eating.

✅ Lack of interest in food—Some people with ARFID don’t feel hunger cues as strongly or simply have little motivation to eat.

These challenges can result in nutritional deficiencies, low energy levels, and difficulty maintaining a balanced diet, making ARFID far more complex than just being "picky."

ARFID and the "Picky Eater" Label

For many people with ARFID, childhood was filled with frustration, guilt, and shame surrounding food. You may have been pressured to "just take a bite," scolded for refusing certain foods, or even forced to eat things that caused distress. Unfortunately, these experiences can carry into adulthood, leading to:

❌ Anxiety around meals—Social situations involving food can feel overwhelming or stressful.

❌ Guilt and self-blame—You may feel like you’re "difficult" or "high-maintenance" when eating out.

❌ Struggles with nutrition—Finding safe foods that provide enough energy and nutrients can be a daily challenge.

But here’s the truth: ARFID is not a choice, and it’s not your fault. You are not just "being difficult," and your struggles with food do not define your worth.

Seeking Support for ARFID

If you relate to these challenges, know that support is available. As an ARFID dietitian, I work with clients to:

✨ Expand their safe foods at a comfortable pace

✨ Address nutrient gaps without pressure or stress

✨ Navigate social situations and meal planning

✨ Rebuild a positive relationship with food

Healing from ARFID doesn’t mean forcing yourself to eat foods that make you uncomfortable. Instead, it’s about finding ways to nourish yourself while respecting your unique needs and challenges.

You Deserve Understanding, Not Judgment

ARFID is real, valid, and deserving of the same compassion as any other eating disorder. If you’ve struggled with the "picky eater" label, it’s time to let go of the guilt. You are not alone, and you don’t have to navigate this journey by yourself.

If you're looking for non-judgmental, neuro-affirming support, I offer both in-person appointments in Fitzroy (Melbourne) and telehealth sessions to make care accessible no matter where you are.

👉 Book an appointment today and start your journey toward food freedom.